Comments on: Bouncing Back After Disappointment http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/ Freelance Writing Jobs for All Writers Sat, 11 Feb 2012 17:52:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Post Scripted - a writing blog » Blog Archive » Coping with writing rejection - link http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-21383 Post Scripted - a writing blog » Blog Archive » Coping with writing rejection - link Sat, 05 Apr 2008 21:29:20 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-21383 [...] for freelance writers and even writers in general. Anyway, today Deb made a post called “Bouncing Back After Disappointment,” detailing ways to cope with writing rejection. Go have a [...] [...] for freelance writers and even writers in general. Anyway, today Deb made a post called “Bouncing Back After Disappointment,” detailing ways to cope with writing rejection. Go have a [...]

]]> By: Jodee http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18132 Jodee Sat, 01 Mar 2008 12:05:32 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18132 @ Scribette and James: You guys are just too funny! @ Scribette and James: You guys are just too funny!

]]> By: Scribette http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18100 Scribette Fri, 29 Feb 2008 22:55:40 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18100 With "pretend" being the key word. haha [again a joke ... don't wanna get "in trouble" again] LOL With “pretend” being the key word. haha [again a joke ... don't wanna get "in trouble" again] LOL

]]> By: James Chartrand - Men with Pens http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18098 James Chartrand - Men with Pens Fri, 29 Feb 2008 22:43:10 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18098 I try to pretend I'm the voice of reason in a sea of chaos :) I try to pretend I’m the voice of reason in a sea of chaos :)

]]> By: Scribette http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18097 Scribette Fri, 29 Feb 2008 22:41:10 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18097 PS - I think James is outnumbered on "this here" thread! Just joshing James. :-) PS – I think James is outnumbered on “this here” thread! Just joshing James. :-)

]]> By: Scribette http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18096 Scribette Fri, 29 Feb 2008 22:39:22 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18096 Jodee - it would happen that many times? Once? I'm shocked! LOL Jodee – it would happen that many times? Once? I’m shocked! LOL

]]> By: Jodee http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18064 Jodee Fri, 29 Feb 2008 16:26:04 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18064 @ James: Telling a woman what to do would only happen once, LOL! @ James: Telling a woman what to do would only happen once, LOL!

]]> By: James Chartrand - Men with Pens http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18063 James Chartrand - Men with Pens Fri, 29 Feb 2008 16:23:52 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18063 I *am* lacking specific equipment that would qualify me as the site host... Though perhaps I should start a sister spin-off. It'd be nice to tell a woman what to do, for once, instead of the other way around ;) I *am* lacking specific equipment that would qualify me as the site host… Though perhaps I should start a sister spin-off. It’d be nice to tell a woman what to do, for once, instead of the other way around ;)

]]> By: Scribette http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18058 Scribette Fri, 29 Feb 2008 15:56:27 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18058 Jenny B - Glad you like Wo-Men With Pens! I still think James should consider it ... lol Jenny B – Glad you like Wo-Men With Pens! I still think James should consider it … lol

]]> By: Ann G. http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18051 Ann G. Fri, 29 Feb 2008 13:59:12 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18051 Don't know how Deb feels about this, but I know I came across a job lead a while back that I didn't qualify for, but someone else might have so I sent it directly to Jodee. If we all did that, and if Deb didn't mind the flood of emails - it would make her job a TON easier. Don’t know how Deb feels about this, but I know I came across a job lead a while back that I didn’t qualify for, but someone else might have so I sent it directly to Jodee.

If we all did that, and if Deb didn’t mind the flood of emails – it would make her job a TON easier.

]]> By: Lara http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18049 Lara Fri, 29 Feb 2008 13:37:28 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18049 Good morning! I'm sorry Jodee will not be posting the job leads anymore - sorrier still that FWJ is not doing well financially. I certainly appreciate and have benefited from your hard work. Here's to brighter days! Regarding disappointment - I don't find myself getting terribly disappointed when I don't get a gig - I do however, find myself disappointed when I lose them! In the last two weeks I have lost my two biggest income producers and I have been ... disappointed (to say the least)! But I awoke this morning to another offer in my inbox - one I'm excited about, to boot! So I suppose spending too much time being disappointed is a mute point. Things come around, as they will for FWJ. Thanks again for all your hard work. Good morning! I’m sorry Jodee will not be posting the job leads anymore – sorrier still that FWJ is not doing well financially. I certainly appreciate and have benefited from your hard work. Here’s to brighter days!

Regarding disappointment – I don’t find myself getting terribly disappointed when I don’t get a gig – I do however, find myself disappointed when I lose them! In the last two weeks I have lost my two biggest income producers and I have been … disappointed (to say the least)! But I awoke this morning to another offer in my inbox – one I’m excited about, to boot! So I suppose spending too much time being disappointed is a mute point. Things come around, as they will for FWJ. Thanks again for all your hard work.

]]> By: Kate http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18048 Kate Fri, 29 Feb 2008 13:14:44 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18048 We must be a bunch of takers. How many thousands of us visit a day and we don't even support Deb through her ads? Come on people. It's the least we can do. Support FWJ. We must be a bunch of takers. How many thousands of us visit a day and we don’t even support Deb through her ads? Come on people. It’s the least we can do. Support FWJ.

]]> By: Phil http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18047 Phil Fri, 29 Feb 2008 12:53:31 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18047 Hope to see Jodee back, too. Hope to see Jodee back, too.

]]> By: Jodee http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18043 Jodee Fri, 29 Feb 2008 12:13:54 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18043 @ James: You've got mail! @ Everyone else who posted that I will be missed - Thank you. Even though I won't be posting job leads for the time being, I still consider myself very much a member of this community and so I will continue to post replies when I have something to contribute. Deb is an A-1, class act and it's been a pleasure to work for her (and you guys). We will be keeping in touch, whether she needs me for paying work or not. I am proud to call her a friend as well as a client, but I don't expect anyone to suffer financially because they are paying me. It just doesn't make sense. So I will be a regular lurker (new word?) even if I don't post something every day. And I will be fine. :) Thank you for thinking of me. @ James: You’ve got mail!

@ Everyone else who posted that I will be missed – Thank you.

Even though I won’t be posting job leads for the time being, I still consider myself very much a member of this community and so I will continue to post replies when I have something to contribute.

Deb is an A-1, class act and it’s been a pleasure to work for her (and you guys). We will be keeping in touch, whether she needs me for paying work or not. I am proud to call her a friend as well as a client, but I don’t expect anyone to suffer financially because they are paying me. It just doesn’t make sense.

So I will be a regular lurker (new word?) even if I don’t post something every day. And I will be fine. :) Thank you for thinking of me.

]]> By: Jenny B http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18042 Jenny B Fri, 29 Feb 2008 12:02:07 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18042 Bouncing Back: I think it certainly becomes easier the longer you freelance or write but it is so true that you should not take it personally. What if every potential employer received 500 + applicantions like James from Tippy Tealeaf had shared with us. You have no choice but to reject 499 others and none of that would have been personal. The right job will come along. You and the job and the employee will all be a good fit. You'll be happier in a writing job that is suited to you and if you are happy, let's face it, your family will be too. @Scribette and @ James Wo-Men-With Pens...Love it! Bouncing Back: I think it certainly becomes easier the longer you freelance or write but it is so true that you should not take it personally. What if every potential employer received 500 + applicantions like James from Tippy Tealeaf had shared with us. You have no choice but to reject 499 others and none of that would have been personal. The right job will come along. You and the job and the employee will all be a good fit. You’ll be happier in a writing job that is suited to you and if you are happy, let’s face it, your family will be too.

@Scribette and @ James Wo-Men-With Pens…Love it!

]]> By: Jenny B http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18041 Jenny B Fri, 29 Feb 2008 11:54:10 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18041 @Jodee you'll be missed, especially by those of us from the Ottawa area, but you may not be gone for long. I'd appreciate seeing you do some posts here to let us know how you are doing. @Deb I'm certain things will pick up soon and you already know what a "keeper" have in Jodee. @Jodee you’ll be missed, especially by those of us from the Ottawa area, but you may not be gone for long. I’d appreciate seeing you do some posts here to let us know how you are doing.

@Deb I’m certain things will pick up soon and you already know what a “keeper” have in Jodee.

]]> By: James Chartrand - Men with Pens http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18040 James Chartrand - Men with Pens Fri, 29 Feb 2008 10:50:44 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18040 I hate to be the bleaker side of the coin, but this is also a good way to demonstrate that blogging - in itself - makes no money. Those who launch themselves on the Internet thinking Adsense and ads will make them rich overnight are fooling themselves. Also, as Deb has shown, blogging to help others is a real job, folks. It's time consuming, expensive and not easy at all. You're witnessing a little bit of a reality check from the blogging world. @ Deb - I am very sorry that this is happening to you, though. Of all the people who deserve to do well, I'd say you're one of them. @ Tasha - Good point. I'm going to click something. I hate to be the bleaker side of the coin, but this is also a good way to demonstrate that blogging – in itself – makes no money. Those who launch themselves on the Internet thinking Adsense and ads will make them rich overnight are fooling themselves.

Also, as Deb has shown, blogging to help others is a real job, folks. It’s time consuming, expensive and not easy at all. You’re witnessing a little bit of a reality check from the blogging world.

@ Deb – I am very sorry that this is happening to you, though. Of all the people who deserve to do well, I’d say you’re one of them.

@ Tasha – Good point. I’m going to click something.

]]> By: Tasha http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18038 Tasha Fri, 29 Feb 2008 10:46:01 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18038 @L.L. - Likewise if everyone who came here clicked on an ad just once a visit Deb would probably have more than enough to pay Jodee's salary. @L.L. – Likewise if everyone who came here clicked on an ad just once a visit Deb would probably have more than enough to pay Jodee’s salary.

]]> By: L. L. Woodard http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18025 L. L. Woodard Fri, 29 Feb 2008 03:49:45 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18025 JoDee-am sure this is just a "later" and not a good-bye. Look forward to your presence back here. Deb-Here's hoping things pick pack up promptly. I'm sure the ads are your biggest bread and butter, but no reason that those of us with any extra $ around can't click on the "please help us keep going" links. Jennifer-I tend toward sarcasm, too. I've found that "write a letter you will never send" trick works for me in all sorts of life situations--work and mothers-in-law come to mind. Write it down, get it out, then erase it or tear it up. JoDee-am sure this is just a “later” and not a good-bye. Look forward to your presence back here.

Deb-Here’s hoping things pick pack up promptly. I’m sure the ads are your biggest bread and butter, but no reason that those of us with any extra $ around can’t click on the “please help us keep going” links.

Jennifer-I tend toward sarcasm, too. I’ve found that “write a letter you will never send” trick works for me in all sorts of life situations–work and mothers-in-law come to mind. Write it down, get it out, then erase it or tear it up.

]]> By: James Chartrand - Men with Pens http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18022 James Chartrand - Men with Pens Fri, 29 Feb 2008 02:38:10 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18022 Nope. I wear the pants in this family. I do have extra pencils, though... ;) Nope. I wear the pants in this family. I do have extra pencils, though… ;)

]]> By: Scribette http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18021 Scribette Fri, 29 Feb 2008 02:33:56 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18021 James - since you want Jodee to send her your rates, does this mean that you are changing your business to Wo-Men With Pens? ;-) James – since you want Jodee to send her your rates, does this mean that you are changing your business to Wo-Men With Pens? ;-)

]]> By: Samantha http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18018 Samantha Fri, 29 Feb 2008 02:11:45 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18018 I too hope that FWJ returns to normal soon! On the "bouncing back after disappointment" front, after reading your post I realized that I cope with rejection much easier in my freelancing work than I do with my fiction work. I suppose it makes sense, since I'm more personally attached to my fiction and I've only just started freelancing in earnes. Still, though, interesting to realize! I too hope that FWJ returns to normal soon!

On the “bouncing back after disappointment” front, after reading your post I realized that I cope with rejection much easier in my freelancing work than I do with my fiction work. I suppose it makes sense, since I’m more personally attached to my fiction and I’ve only just started freelancing in earnes. Still, though, interesting to realize!

]]> By: Mariella http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18017 Mariella Fri, 29 Feb 2008 01:59:22 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18017 It's very, very rare that I dwell on a gig I didn't get. Those times that I did, it was because I spent hours laboring on my cover letter and followed-up a few times afterwards. I only do that when I know the project is tailor-fit for me. But then I don't delude myself into thinking that I'm one of a kind. There will always be those whose qualifications are the same as mine yet fit a certain gig better than I do. Life goes on. Jodee, I'll miss you! It’s very, very rare that I dwell on a gig I didn’t get. Those times that I did, it was because I spent hours laboring on my cover letter and followed-up a few times afterwards. I only do that when I know the project is tailor-fit for me. But then I don’t delude myself into thinking that I’m one of a kind. There will always be those whose qualifications are the same as mine yet fit a certain gig better than I do. Life goes on.

Jodee, I’ll miss you!

]]> By: James Chartrand - Men with Pens http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18011 James Chartrand - Men with Pens Thu, 28 Feb 2008 23:30:23 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18011 When I don't get a gig, I don't get a gig. *Shrug* What can you do? There's no point taking it personally - someone was a better fit, and I'll be a better fit for someone else. @ Jodee - Send me your rates. When I don’t get a gig, I don’t get a gig. *Shrug* What can you do? There’s no point taking it personally – someone was a better fit, and I’ll be a better fit for someone else.

@ Jodee – Send me your rates.

]]> By: RLD: Taekwondo Happiness http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/02/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/comment-page-1/#comment-18009 RLD: Taekwondo Happiness Thu, 28 Feb 2008 22:38:11 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/bouncing-back-after-disappointment/#comment-18009 I'm sorry to hear that the finances are going poorly. I hope that Jodee will be able to come back soon! I’m sorry to hear that the finances are going poorly. I hope that Jodee will be able to come back soon!

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