Comments on: How to Take the Sting Out of Rejection http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/ Freelance Writing Jobs for All Writers Sat, 11 Feb 2012 17:52:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Adam http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24733 Adam Sun, 11 May 2008 13:09:54 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24733 @ Ann G. Sneaky! I've never thought of playing them off one another like that. We can only hope publishers havn't thought of that too! @ Ann G.

Sneaky! I’ve never thought of playing them off one another like that. We can only hope publishers havn’t thought of that too!

]]> By: Robin Marie http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24641 Robin Marie Fri, 09 May 2008 15:28:51 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24641 @ Ann G. Well there's a tactic I never thought of, although it definitely makes sense. I guess it's just easier to take the lower-priced one initially without doing more work. Next time, I'll be calling back! @ Ann G.

Well there’s a tactic I never thought of, although it definitely makes sense. I guess it’s just easier to take the lower-priced one initially without doing more work. Next time, I’ll be calling back!

]]> By: bleeding espresso http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24633 bleeding espresso Fri, 09 May 2008 14:57:00 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24633 Point well-taken. Rejection is just part of the business, plain and simple, and the better we deal with it, the better off we are :) Point well-taken. Rejection is just part of the business, plain and simple, and the better we deal with it, the better off we are :)

]]> By: Ann G. http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24616 Ann G. Fri, 09 May 2008 12:42:24 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24616 Re: Adam's comment on plumbers-- Actually, I do. Many times, if I get a lower quote and then call the plumber/electrician/firewood hauler stating the lower quote, who gave it and what it was, they'll lower their price just to get the business. Maybe I'm alone, but calling back for items like that can be very beneficial. It's how I was buying delivered firewood last year at $150 a cord instead of the going rate of $200. Re: Adam’s comment on plumbers–

Actually, I do. Many times, if I get a lower quote and then call the plumber/electrician/firewood hauler stating the lower quote, who gave it and what it was, they’ll lower their price just to get the business.

Maybe I’m alone, but calling back for items like that can be very beneficial. It’s how I was buying delivered firewood last year at $150 a cord instead of the going rate of $200.

]]> By: Cherrye at My Bella Vita http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24606 Cherrye at My Bella Vita Fri, 09 May 2008 11:49:24 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24606 Love the decorating idea! :-) Of course, my badges of horror are spread out between two countries now. Hmmm...placemats, anyone?? Love the decorating idea! :-) Of course, my badges of horror are spread out between two countries now. Hmmm…placemats, anyone??

]]> By: Scribette http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24595 Scribette Fri, 09 May 2008 03:49:30 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24595 I guess it depends on what the rejection concerns. If it is a rejection regarding a query, it is always good to know asap whether an editor likes your idea or not. If it is a rejection with respect to a job posting, it does not bother me if I do not hear back from them. I guess it depends on what the rejection concerns.

If it is a rejection regarding a query, it is always good to know asap whether an editor likes your idea or not.

If it is a rejection with respect to a job posting, it does not bother me if I do not hear back from them.

]]> By: Adam http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24589 Adam Fri, 09 May 2008 01:03:00 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24589 Having said that, When you call 2 plumbers to get quotes on your broken toilet, do you call the other guy back and say no thanks? Having said that,

When you call 2 plumbers to get quotes on your broken toilet, do you call the other guy back and say no thanks?

]]> By: Rhonda http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24580 Rhonda Thu, 08 May 2008 22:31:16 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24580 I too would rather hear something than nothing. I understand people looking for writers (or any kind of worker for that matter), may get many replies. But when an applicant takes time to send a letter, resume, experience, writing samples, etc., I believe at least an acknowledgement is deserved. I too would rather hear something than nothing. I understand people looking for writers (or any kind of worker for that matter), may get many replies. But when an applicant takes time to send a letter, resume, experience, writing samples, etc., I believe at least an acknowledgement is deserved.

]]> By: Erika K http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24578 Erika K Thu, 08 May 2008 22:12:54 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24578 I agree, at least you can reasonably assume that a human being took a few minutes to read what you wrote. I agree, at least you can reasonably assume that a human being took a few minutes to read what you wrote.

]]> By: Fiona http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24576 Fiona Thu, 08 May 2008 21:44:35 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24576 You're right - the fact that they took the time to write and reject you is huge. I get so tired of never hearing back and wondering if I'm still in the running. You’re right – the fact that they took the time to write and reject you is huge. I get so tired of never hearing back and wondering if I’m still in the running.

]]> By: Adam http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24570 Adam Thu, 08 May 2008 20:22:27 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24570 Thanks for the post Colleen, It's one of those dirty little things that everyone deals with but nobody likes to talk about. Good to get it out in the open sometimes! Thanks for the post Colleen,

It’s one of those dirty little things that everyone deals with but nobody likes to talk about. Good to get it out in the open sometimes!

]]> By: Adam http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24569 Adam Thu, 08 May 2008 20:21:34 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24569 I definitely prefer bad news to no news. I'd rather know as soon as possible that someone doesn't want something, than sit there with it for weeks on end, wondering if maybe they're just busy and they'll send me an email tomorrow... I'd be much more inclined to work with someone in the future if I received a rejection rather than nothing. I definitely prefer bad news to no news. I’d rather know as soon as possible that someone doesn’t want something, than sit there with it for weeks on end, wondering if maybe they’re just busy and they’ll send me an email tomorrow…

I’d be much more inclined to work with someone in the future if I received a rejection rather than nothing.

]]> By: Maria E. http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24567 Maria E. Thu, 08 May 2008 19:51:26 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24567 The key is to distance yourself from the rejection so that you can be objective enough to learn something from it. The editor has rejected your work, not you. However, most writers (myself included) have fragile egos, and we are very bound up with our work. It's the artist's blessing, because it gives us our inspiration; and it is the artist's curse, because we can't stand anyone to say no. The trick is to maintain a balance between the yin and the yang and learn to look at a rejection as another milestone on your way to becoming the writer you are destined to be. The key is to distance yourself from the rejection so that you can be objective enough to learn something from it. The editor has rejected your work, not you.

However, most writers (myself included) have fragile egos, and we are very bound up with our work. It’s the artist’s blessing, because it gives us our inspiration; and it is the artist’s curse, because we can’t stand anyone to say no. The trick is to maintain a balance between the yin and the yang and learn to look at a rejection as another milestone on your way to becoming the writer you are destined to be.

]]> By: Erika K http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24565 Erika K Thu, 08 May 2008 19:38:56 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24565 You know, sometimes rejection is a blessing. Perhaps there are some finer points that you can make improvements on. Or, if you'd been accepted for this good looking gig, you might have had to turn down a great gig a few weeks later because you were too busy. Who knows? You can't always understand how the freelancing world works. One day, YOU will be the one that gets the *star* assignment, which will make all the rejections completely tolerable. :) You know, sometimes rejection is a blessing. Perhaps there are some finer points that you can make improvements on. Or, if you’d been accepted for this good looking gig, you might have had to turn down a great gig a few weeks later because you were too busy.

Who knows? You can’t always understand how the freelancing world works. One day, YOU will be the one that gets the *star* assignment, which will make all the rejections completely tolerable. :)

]]> By: Laurel - Freelance Marketing Jobs http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/2008/05/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-24564 Laurel - Freelance Marketing Jobs Thu, 08 May 2008 19:33:53 +0000 http://www.freelancewritinggigs.com/how-to-take-the-sting-out-of-rejection/#comment-24564 Nicely put, Colleen. Rejection can sometimes feel like an exercise in futility. And you're absolutely right that there is a tendency to shy away for fear of rejection again. But the fact is that writing is a competitive market and it is often subjective. Persistence and patience does eventually pay off. Nicely put, Colleen. Rejection can sometimes feel like an exercise in futility. And you’re absolutely right that there is a tendency to shy away for fear of rejection again. But the fact is that writing is a competitive market and it is often subjective. Persistence and patience does eventually pay off.

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